Where Does Your Allegiance Lie

A puppy can not nurse on two bitches.........
A dog can not have two masters..........
And A master can not serve two Gods........

You must decide where your loyalty lies. Although, you may love, respect, and honor many things at the same time, your true allegiance can only be to one thing and one thing ONLY.

When I was young, my mother and father taught me about loyalty.
I had two friends who got into a very nasty fight over a girl (of course...they seem to always be at the source of male confrontations, don't they?)
 I was torn between the two of them because they were trying to force me to choose which one of them I was going to continue to hang with. The hatred that these friends had between them, was so substantial that they refused to be within sight of the other.
I really didn't have that many friends at the time, so I wasn't trying to lose either of them.

So I went to my parents and asked them how I was to decide which friend to align myself with, because I didn't know what to do. I was expecting for them to tell me some bullshit about coming together....singing kumbya...not choosing sides .......and continuing to be friends with both of them.....but that's not what they said. I was surprised at what they said to me.

They said:
Parents: Son....Do you know the difference between easy and simple?

Me: huh.....No, I guess not. I thought they were the same.

Parents: Son....Do you know the difference between difficult and hard?

Me: They aren't the same thing??????

Parents: No they are not. DIFFICULT is like solving a very complex math problem, while HARD is like deciding which friend to let go.
Making a DIFFICULT decision is very SIMPLE, choose A or B. But it isn't EASY, because there are consequences to each one, and should not be taken lightly.

Me: So what are you saying?????

Parents: Life is going to be HARD son, but if you are able to determine early-on, what is most important to you.......Then all the decisions you will have to make will be EASY and SIMPLE because all you will have to do is pick the option that best supports what is most important to you.
Determine where your loyalty is. If it is school, then all your decisions should put school first. If it is sports, then all of your decisions should put sports first.

Me: But what if I want to be loyal to both of my friends?

Parents: Then you can try son....but you will fail. Because there will come a day when 1 of your feuding friends decides to do something bad to the other and you will know about it before hand.
If you do nothing, then you have betrayed the friend who is about to be done wrong. If you warn them, then you will betray the friend who was plotting the attack.
You will have to make a decision and will have to chose where your loyalty lies. So why not make the the hard choice now, so that all the future ones will be easy?


Although I didn't understand exactly what they meant at the time, it eventually became clear as day as I grew older.
No matter how faithful you are to the people in your life, if you are not truly LOYAL to 1 person, thing, or ideal, then your life will be filled with HARD choices.
Everyone wants to have their cake and eat it too, but in the end.........you can only have 1.